THE IDEAL LOVER:ADVICES FOR WOMEN
Passionate and gentle, impatient, close and as if anticipating any your desire, gesture... He is generous on tender words not only "up to", but also "during", and "after". He looks at you so as if other women do not exist, and it makes you by the most beautiful and the most desired. He loves you all - your hair, lips, a neck, knees and fingers on legs. His each sight is full of secret sense, and from this is sweet heart fades and wings behind a back grow. With him it can be sad, but it is boring - never! It is a portrait of the ideal lover.
Cumulative female experience shows, that such men extremely seldom meet in the nature (in the ratio one to one thousand, and one can even to ten thousand). That is chances to catch the ideal lover in husbands are very insignificant. In fact how to distinguish this the superman among Adam's other sons?
Many of us are convinced, that at the ideal lover long thin fingers and, in general, beautifully molded hands. As a rule, he has well developed muscles. It is logical, in fact superfluous fat and flabby muscles testify to a low tone, and sexual - including.
And still speak, that at the ideal lover has the big nose and an extensive bald head. But, alas, even if on horizon there was an object with characteristic attributes, there are no guarantees, that he will show miracles in bed. Appearances are deceptive...
However, it has yet the occasion to complain about destiny because as psychoanalysts approve, practically in everyone to the man live Casanova, Don Juan and Gerackle in their best displays. Business of the woman is to wake the sexual giant in own husband, having made a joint life small branch of paradise on the ground.
So, what to do to transform the beloved into the ideal lover
Probably, it will be revelation for you, but psychoanalysts consider, that there is nothing and to dream of changing the man not having changed most. Installation on sexual re-education of the man will lead only to that he either becomes the impotent man, or will run away to other woman. And therefore...
Step 1. Paraphrase a task in view, having emphasized not on "re-education" the husband, and on perfection of your sexual relations. Replace aggressive spirit on positive and constructive!
Step 2. Analyse all your joint life. For certain during a honeymoon your elect was represented you by an embodiment of the best man's qualities. He has changed (and as it seems to you, not in the best side). But in fact all in the world varies. You do not think, that have remained same, as five (10, 20...) years back!
Now think above that, as far as you have departed from an image of the ideal mistress in which you, undoubtedly, were, being the newly made wife. Comprehension of own imperfection "I" will help you to understand and accept lacks of the beloved, stimulate you on changes in own.
But it has already been a step 3. Recollect, how you perceived favourite earlier. You admired and touched the most simple things: a sound of his voice, how he ridiculously wrinkles a nose when sneezes, all him moles and scars. Throw off from itself a peel of the lived years, the saved up experience, clever advices. Abstract from scientific calculations about crisis of 3-rd, 7-th and 15-th years of a life. Become that whom you were for him in that hot insatiable summer (autumn, winter spring). Become the ideal mistress!
Step 4. During sex think only of sex. Away ideas on not whitewashed ceiling and to that similar! It not only kills your excitation in a germ. According to researches of scientists, during intimate affinity at lovers ability to communicate at a level unconscious becomes aggravated. It is simple to guess, how the man if you will be deaf and mute to all to his signals will react.
Step 5. Being engaged in sex, never constrain the feelings. Shout, if you would like to shout, groan, whisper, cry - everything, everything, any contro! It is natural, if your mutual emotions and imaginations do not bring harm (a pain or feeling of depression).
Step 6. Induce Him to make love more often: recurrence - mother of the doctrine! Try to avoid routine. Remember, that skills and skills turn to art only in the event that in process of training the element of creativity has been introduced. Offer favourite game " Today – I am, tomorrow - you are": in one day you apply a maximum of efforts on making night of love unforgettable, and for other day it should be made to him. Such experiment wakens sexual imagination, interest and creative activity in the man. Then, when game will be forgotten, the aspiration to diversify an intimate life remains at a level of unconscious impulses.
Some advice for women with different types orgasm.
If at you vagina-type orgasm, choose "concession-calling" style of behaviour. It does not mean, that you should lay. As the idol, not answering on man's caress. Perceive him as the force, capable to fill with itself all space, not having left any extraneous ideas and emotions uniform chance of a survival. Only such attitude to the man can guarantee sexual success and the further development of harmonious attitudes.
At clitoral-type additional stimulation clitor, as is known, is necessary. Experts approve, that 40 percent of women achieve satisfaction only in the event that do it independently. The prompt way to achievement of sexual harmony consists in convincing the man: anything humiliating man's advantage in this is not present. It is easy to tell: "convince"! And how does to make it? Present it as a part of erotic game. Not stopping to stroke itself on a body, repeat: " However, my skin is very gentle " Then your hand smoothly slides to a treasured place - and it will be naturally enough! Or offer favourite "division of labour": you will concentrate on clitor while he caresss other your erogenous zones. Any normal the man will apprehend these actions as an excellent stimulant.
Three rules which never and under no circumstances cannot be broken at dialogue with the beloved
1. Do not criticize his sexual opportunities in comparison with someone's others.
2. Do not punish his refusal of affinity in reply to his any fault.
3. Do not accuse him that test a dissatisfaction.
If you have executed all these recommendations, but your husband is still far from an image of the ideal lover, address to the psychoanalyst. He will help you to realize all mistakes and the complexes connected with them, stirring to harmonize your intimate relations.
